I LOL-ed at myself in my head when I saw Quackaboy receiving a whistle in a party pack. The first thing that came into my mind was how I gave whistles away during a Sunday School lesson in church (this was before I had kids myself). I remember what one mom said to me. She said “These should never be given to kids! Imagine how noisy the house would be!”She was saying it jokingly but half serious as well. And then I realized what I had done. She was a good friend of mine so she was just ‘letting me know’ in that conversation. I have never forgotten that incident. Then, I learned about toys and what kids are like with them.
Fast forward to now, QB is 2. When I saw that whistle in that party pack, I never took it out, let alone show him what it was. I didn’t want to make that mistake and then regret later on. Sure, he will play with it one day and sure, he will know what it is and how to use it. But I decided that THAT one day will not be now. Maybe when he’s 4 or 5. When he can understand better instructions and have better control of his emotions.
Today however, he got hold of a whistle. Being 30 weeks pregnant, I freaked out and panicked for a few seconds; reminded of that incident in church. But thankfully, it was right before dinner time so he only blew it for about 15 minutes. I told Daddy to please hide it, and hope he doesn’t remember it!
Here’s some of the toys/things that I personally think should NEVER be given to a toddler:-
Daddy said he didn’t mind the xylophone and thought it was good for QB to learn tones/music. But I said no. Mama is not ready for this.
2. Mouth Instruments
Thank goodness we haven’t had any of that plastic trumpet toy, but we did have these paper trumpets from a party pack. QB was too young to use it anyway and he didn’t know how to blow it. They got all yucky from saliva so we threw it away.
QB got hold of one in church one day and didn’t wanna let go. It was a challenge taking it away and some tears were shed. Never again.
These are just 4 of the toys/things that I find annoying, based on my personal experience. Some may love it and that is fine. QB does have other noisy toys like a gun a makes crazy sounds each time you press the ‘fire’ button or a drum that beats when he taps it, or even a toy piano. But those toys are bearable because they at least have an ON/OFF switch. Or sometimes, we just leave the battery out.
Now why do I fuss about these things? I have my reasons and sometimes I wish that those around me would understand and support my decision. And hopefully see my point and think a little further. I am not a fan of noisy toys. There are so many toys out there in the market, but there are some in particular, I really would avoid in my house as much as possible. My reason is this – the unnecessary noise.
- With a toddler in the house, it is already noisy, don’t you agree? QB talks all day and sometimes he just cannot stop. I don’t mind him talking. I fact, I love hearing him speak and getting his way around words and learning new words (LOL, I may regret saying this 1-2 years from now). So with the noise he’s making, and the noise we make while playing with him, who needs a noisy toy to add on to more noise?
- Quackababy 2 is due in 10 weeks. Now that’s in about 2 months time (ONLY!!!). I can’t imagine one evening when she’s sleeping, and QB would blow the whistle, along with the usual noise from playing with toys and it may wake her up? I know babies sleep better with white noise and some sorta background sounds, but these toys/things are just out of the question. Knowing QB himself was a terrible sleeper as a newborn and baby, I just want to prepare that QB2 may be the same. A sleeping baby is a bliss.
- Sleep. We co sleep in the same room with QB and on weekends, he usually wakes up earlier than us. Imagine if he had taken that noisy toy and start playing? I think my head would be aching and I don’t wanna start the day nagging at him to stop playing with it. Mama needs her sanity and peace too. Especially when QB2 arrives.
Having said all these, I am so grateful that QB is an easy toddler. When we take something away from him, he doesn’t throw a huge fit. In fact, often, we are successful at it and he will understand and cooperate. We haven’t had to deal with any serious tears or meltdown from him. With him being such a great kid, sometimes he will still manage to get hold of these items. I only hope that when QB2 arrives, the situation will get better. And we will make better choices.
Have you experienced the same or have other toy/thing that you feel should never be in a toddler’s hands? Please share it with me!