My Little Miracle

The exciting story of God's very special gift to Mama & Papa…

NAME REVEAL!!!

For those who’ve been waiting to find out her name, we are finally sharing it to the world at 38 weeks!

Here’s a short clip on our name reveal on Quackababy 2 a.k.a QB2 or Little Miss Quack. Click the image below to find out… 

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More updates on how we got her name and why in another post 😀

 

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When is my due date???

It is every pregnant moms wish to know when is her exact due date; even though it is just an estimate, having the peace to know that everyone is on the same page (and everyone means the doctor, the nurse, yourself, the ultrasound tech, etc) will really put an ease to your mind.

Well, according to BabyCentre AND every single pregnancy due date calculator online, my due date for QB2 is on Feb 10th, 2016. How accurate are online calculators? Well, I used it with Leo and my doctor then revealed the same date too, so I believe they are correct. But this time, my midwife said that it is on Feb 13th, 2016 and not the 1oth, based on her manual calculation which they add 7 days to your LMP (last menstrual period). I’ve always sidetracked her calculation coz I felt it wasn’t accurate and preferred to stick to Feb 10th. I had my final ultrasound with a gynae on Tuesday and I asked him about my due date; again. According to his calculation, he said it was Feb 13th! I was shocked. Not because I didn’t believe him but because every single calculator says 10th according to my LMP, but his and the midwifes’ says 13th. He also said that it is only a difference by 3 days, so it doesn’t really matter. True but NOT TRUE. If you’ve been pregnant, you KNOW that the last month of pregnancy has 365 days! I wouldn’t want to be overdue either, and every single day counts when you’re in the home run.

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If you’ve been in the TTC (trying to conceive) moment and you are the kinda mom that knows your cycle very well and know about fertility and conception, you will know that there are other methods to determine your due date.

  1. Using your LMP – which most doctors use and what the online calculator uses too. But I don’t know why the manual calculation and generic calculator differs by 3 days? So according to this calculation, my due date is on the 13th.
  2. Date of conception – We all know what we need to do to conceive. And I know the exact date, because we only tried once. They can argue and say that this method is not the best because sperm can live in the uterus for a couple of days and you never know when you ovulate. But my cycle is very regular and I know when I am in the fertile window. So since we only tried ONCE, I keyed in the date of conception and that had put my due date to the 7th! Now that’s a huge difference between 7th and 13th. That is 1 week ahead of what the LMP says.

In case you’re wondering why am I so anal about my due date; it is an estimate anyway. It is because I was overdue with Leo and had to be induced. That wasn’t fun at all. And at the end of pregnancy, baby is growing bigger and bigger each day. If baby gets too big, there are chances that they may now allow you to birth naturally and/or say that there are risks involved. I had to be induced with Leo because my water broke and I was overdue.

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I am only hoping that I will not go overdue this time. I don’t want to be induced and I don’t want baby to get too big, as she measures 2.7kg already. Each week they gain about 300 grams. So the remaining 3 weeks I have left means she could put on 1kg. That would mean she could be born at 3.7kgs! That’s gonna hurt… and no C section for me please! I know these are estimate figures, plus minus 10%, but still, my heart just feels kinda unsettled.

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Anyway, I just wanted to get this out of my chest. Ultimately, God’s timing is best. He knows when she will be here and she will be here when she’s ready. The only thing I can do now is to prepare my body for labor and trust that it till complete the whole process. If my body can conceive and sustain the whole pregnancy till full term, my body can birth this baby out naturally and the process will be complete. It will not fail me and it will not go haywire suddenly.

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Gifts Ideas for Baby & Mama

Usually, people give you gifts when you just had a baby here in Malaysia; or some during the “full moon” celebration of baby when they are a month old. Those who come and visit you will bring you something for the baby and often, they are things which you really don’t need. I am not writing this because I am ungrateful or anything. I just wanted to share my experience and give some ideas on things that baby and mama will surely appreciate.

Again, these gifts are what people will bring when they visit you at the hospital or at home. I am not referring to large items (cot, bouncer, pillow, thermometer, etc) that are requested/given during baby showers. These are small things that friends/family want to bless you with when they come see baby for the first time.

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The most common gifts people will give are newborn hampers. Consisting of a set of clothes, mittens, booties, and maybe some baby bath/feeding related items. I personally find these really expensive and have not much use for them – except the bath items. Reason is because baby may have already outgrow newborn size clothes and maybe the baby has certain skin sensitivity to certain brands of bath items or feeding bottles. Not to mention, if the mother is breastfeeding, it will be a while before those bottles are put to good use.

When QB was born, I am thankful that I have friends/family and other mama friends that asked what I needed as a gift. I was happy to tell them what we need. Of course, cash gifts are always great. Because there are hospital fees/bills to clear. Baby’s medical follow ups. And whatever the parents need to use it for. If you aren’t sure what they need, ask the Mama what she needs and I can guarantee a 100% she will tell you 😉

Here’s my list of items for baby that I personally find very useful and will definitely be put to use.

1. Disposable Diapers

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Baby goes through so many diapers a day for the next 2-3 years! Diapers are always a necessity. I am a cloth diapering mama, but having some disposables will always come in handy. I would recommend getting larger sized diapers too as baby outgrows them quickly.

2. Baby Wipes

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I remember when a friend asked me what I needed when QB was born and I said wipes – LOTS AND LOTS OF WIPES! She was shocked at my request but proceeded anyway. She got me about 10-20 packs of wipes and boy, did that last me a long time! Wipes are great for diaper changes, cleaning spit ups, wiping the counters, wiping baby’s mouth when they’re on solids, cleaning cutlery – you name it! I even use wipes for myself sometimes.

3. Receiving blankets/swaddles/muslin blankets/burp cloths/hankies/cloth wipes

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Whatever you call it, I am referring to cloth items that will soak baby spit ups, spilled milk, and crazy breastfeeding letdowns. New babies up to about 3 months will spit up a lot and you will be using a few pieces each day. At least for me, I did. The blankets can be used to lay on the bed too, just to protect it from pee/poop explosions. Or what my hubs would say – “SPRAY POOP”. Swaddling blankets are not just used for swaddles but also to keep baby warm as a blanket, nursing cover, laying it on the changing mat, or wherever you need to lay baby down. I find many uses for them and could never have enough!

4. Bath items (good ones)

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I know some may be particular on brands or types of bath items used for baby. This also depends on baby’s condition like skin sensitivity or if baby has eczema. Its always good to ask first before purchasing.

 

For baby, I really think those are the only necessary essentials. Here’s my list of items for Mama that may be helpful. Especially breastfeeding mamas! But these items are not needed in huge amounts like diapers and wipes. Just a couple will be sufficient for Mama.

1. Nipple cream

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During the first month or first few months, breastfeeding is a challenge. Especially for first time moms. You will have sore nipples and even bleeding ones if your baby is not latching correctly. Of course with help, it will be fixed. But having a nipple cream is very helpful to ease the soreness not just from a bad latch, but from feeding your baby every 30 mins, around the clock! If there is no need for Mama to use it, these creams can also be applied to baby’s bum to prevent rashes.

2. Breast pads

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Again, you will leak milk during the first few months of breastfeeding. Having a good quality breast pad to soak up all the milk is very important. Not only does it prevent itch and rash, it keeps the area clean and dry.

3. Food

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Be it a home cooked meal, herbs from the store, or anything to help out in supplying meals for the family will help a ton. I am a mom that cooks for the family at least 4 times a week and do not have a maid/confinement lady. So not having to worry about cooking will take the stress out of me. Or at least preparing/bringing some groceries will ease the burden of restocking the pantry. Again, this is subjective – unless there is a hired confinement lady or maid at home, this may not be essential after all.

Basically, items for mama really depends on her situation. It is always better to ask her what she needs. These are the items that I personally would use and would be grateful for them. Items for baby is pretty much straight forward. Diapers and wipes are awesome.

What are your gift ideas for new baby and mama?

 

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Toddler Play Win!

Often when it comes to entertaining Quackaboy, we’re out of ideas to keep him busy. I stumbled upon a Facebook article on toddler play ideas and thought to give it a try!

One of it was easy as we had the items in our house already.

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CARDBOARD BOX.

A huge one. We gave him markers and colored pencils to draw on it while sitting inside. And Daddy added to make it look like a mini spaceship too.

Well, it was very successful and he was playing in it for over an hour. And the next day, and the next day too…

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From a spaceship, he made it into a car, and then into a house.

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Happy toddler = Happy parents!
(Dad gets to workout, Mom gets to make dinner, and Grandpa gets to rest)

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After the Christmas season, and playing with his Xmas toys, he has forgotten about the box. But we’re okay with that because any toy, over time, will become boring or too common for him. We have been saving an even bigger box for him to play one day when he gets really bored or when he just needs new stimulation.

Maybe by then time QB2 comes, the bigger box will be useful to keep him occupied a few hours! 😀

If you haven’t tried this with your toddler, GIVE IT A GO! 

Let me know how it turned out!

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34 weeks + 5 days

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HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS!!!

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I meant to do this bumpdate last Wednesday when I turned 34 weeks, but heck, I was so tired from being unable to sleep between 2-6am (literally!) and then waking up at 9am. And then, the next day was New Year’s eve and I had a horrible day at work. Come Friday, it was New Years and I wanted to spend with with my family through the weekend so I decided to delay this update until today.

I have quite a lot to talk about this week, things have been pretty challenging. Let me break it down for you a little.

Physically

Stretch marks: I can feel my belly is getting bigger and tighter by the day. That means that baby is growing and she should weigh about 2.5kgs by now.

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Stretch marks are saying hello to me too! Now, I know there are many products outside to “prevent” these marks, but really, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s partly genetics and with the rate of how fast your belly is growing, it is inevitable. My skin is not that elastic and the marks have gone up above my belly button stretching even more from the precious marks I got from Leo. I know of some people whose belly went super huge and no stretch marks; NONE. Well, good for them. I am not super sad about it. In fact, these are my battle scars. A reminder that life was formed and that my body did whatever it needs to do to support it.

Fatigue: I am feeling very tired the past week. So tired that I just want to lay in bed all day and go to bed at 7pm. Of course I didn’t coz I couldn’t fall asleep. Even when I do, it’s not long before I have to wake to pee and then the cycle repeats itself. I decided to hit the gym instead to join a BODYPUMP class which helped me get my mind off things and I really enjoyed it. I forgot how nice it was being a member and not having to teach.

Pains: I have been having some pelvic pain especially on my right side. It’s like as if my legs are gonna detach from my body. My tailbone is hurting too which is weird, because I didn’t have that with Leo. Someone told me that it could be because my pelvis/birth canal is widening hence it affects the tailbone too. Thankfully though, that my feet aren’t swollen and my blood pressure seems good. Oh, and I almost can’t see my foot!

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Braxton Hicks: These practice contractions are happening so often especially at night. They don’t really hurt, but they are uncomfortable. When it happens, my belly would get super tight and then I can’t breathe normally. It almost feels like I needed to hold my breath or breathe out very very slowly. There was one day (that day that I didn’t sleep from 2-6am), these contractions were coming so regularly that I downloaded an app to time the contractions, just in case it may be the real thing. But thankfully they went away. I wonder if the regularity of these contractions are caused by the Red Raspberry Leaf Tea that I’ve been drinking daily.

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It tones the uterus and supports the organ to prepare for birth. If it is, then it is doing it’s job well. So far I have been loving this tea. I drink 2 cups throughout the day and then another at night before bed.

Emotionally

Emotionally it has been rough. I’ve done so much crying this past week and it’s still on going. I cry at every emotion that runs through my body. Memories of my late grandma made me cry and parenting made me cry too. Sometimes I wished that the people around me would understand and at least try to accommodate my feelings and appreciate the effort I put in to make this house a home. But I’ve reminded myself to never expect anything from anyone because I’m just gonna be disappointed at the end. I will stop expecting anyone to help carry furniture, heavy groceries, laundry baskets and so on. The nurse told me to stop carrying heavy items (because of my weak pelvic floor), but what am I to do? It upsets me when people chose to see without their heart.

Rants aside. I am thankful for my husband who helps me when he can. I couldn’t have done it without him. Thanks Darling.

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I also have been having some mild anxiety as to how am I going to birth this baby out. The memories of the pain I went through with Leo plays in my head and I am so scared. I know in time, that it will all be alright and it is going to be ok. It’ll be over before you know it. But still, the anxiousness makes me nervous and I hope that it’ll be easier second time around.

Spiritually

I have been asking God for a quick and easy delivery for this baby. I’ve also learnt to pray specifically for my body, that it’ll do that it needs to when time comes. I am also so thankful to Him for this gift and miracle. So grateful to have a daughter and appreciating life more than ever.

Honestly my spirit has been up and down. Probably my hormones are out of whack and it may stay the same even till after the baby is born. I have no idea what’s going to happen after she’s born; how are we going to manage a newborn AND a toddler? How am I gonna keep the house running and making sure there’s food on the table? How is laundry going to be like for 5 people? Am I ever able to go back to work? Who is going to take care of the baby? All these thoughts circulate my mind daily. I am reminding myself that God is the Almighty and He is in control. If he opens a door, no one can ever close it. I am trying really hard to remember the scriptures and see things in His eyes. Ultimately, He is my provider and everything will fall into place when time comes.

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One step at a time. One day at a time. 

I guess these are all the reasons for the tough week last week. Waves of emotions as time gets closer and closer. I hope this week will be a better one. I am also trying to find as much time to spend with Leo because I know, in less than 40 days, he will not be the only child anymore and I may not even have the time to spend with him. He’s such a joy and he makes me so happy. I thank God for a good toddler and I hope he’ll love his little sister too.

Thanks for reading this post. I know it’s kinda “all over the place” but I wanted to let it out and express how I am feeling. Looking forward for a better week and I hope 2016 has been kind to you!

 

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